Not an Average Birthday…!

“Sometimes one likes foolish people for their folly, better than wise people for their wisdom.”Elizabeth Gaskell 

April Fool’s Day — always a fun day for those with a sense of humor. However, I have to admit I tend to be a gullible person (just ask my physical therapist) so I was and am often made a ‘fool’ by a joke, prank, or hoax on this annual occasion.

This light-hearted day also has dual meaning within my family since it’s also my father and my birthday. Yes, I was born on April Fool’s Day or also known as All Fool’s Day. For those of you who know me; I can hear your laughs, and many of you saying “that makes a lot of sense!”

Unlike Halloween or Valentine’s Day, April Fool’s Day, which began in the 1500s in France, is a “for-fun-only” observance. Nobody is expected to buy gifts or to take their significant other out to eat in a fancy restaurant…except my husband. Nobody gets off work or school. It’s simply a fun day! And, who hasn’t played a practical joke telling someone their shoe was untied, or placed a ‘kick me’ sign on their sibling’s back, or a more elaborate prank such as setting a roommate’s alarm clock back an hour. Whatever the prank, the trickster ends it by yelling to his victim, “April Fool!” feeling victorious as if the day has been successful. However, what I didn’t know is all jokes are supposed to end by noon or are considered bad luck.

Despite being born on a rather unique day, sharing a birthday with my Dad was and is always enjoyable. We are 30 years apart in age and in many ways a lot alike…too much on some days. We are extremely stubborn and like to have the last word — in fact, it’s kind of like watching an episode of Seinfeld the way our ‘conversations’ can go in circles. Although, if he needed anything (from a kidney to a good tongue lashing) I am there for him and I know he feels the same way. In our family…blood is truly thicker than water.

I thought on this day as I begin to ease closer and rather quickly to a milestone birthday, it was the perfect time to take stock of my blessings. It seems during the last six-plus years, I have been letting Dr. Liar and my spinal cord injury consume my thoughts and life. And, while I have learned and grown as a Christian and an individual, I try very hard to focus on the positives. During this difficult economy and a time where jobs are hard to find, people are lonely, hurting and are feeling lost, I thought by sharing my list it may help others begin to see all they have to be thankful for during both the good and challenging times.

And, since Dad and I haven’t blown the candles out on our yummy low-carb birthday cake yet, I am going to share my wish, which many people believe is also a prayer. My birthday wish is for readers to be healthy, happy and to appreciate the joy in their lives. While I have been through what I thought was the lowest point in my life; I discovered I wasn’t alone; thankfully, God never left my side. And, during that time I learned to celebrate the little things, look for the rainbows following the rain, achieved a better life balance, asked God for what I wanted, but learned he gives me what I need, and to respect all people each and every day. That is my wish for you — to live the same and what a difference you will see…immediately!

Happy Day to you!

I am grateful for: (and these are in no particular order):

— My relationship with God and the way he forgives my sins even when I have difficulty forgiving a certain person

— The most caring and giving husband ever created by God; a daughter who makes me proud every day

— Parents who are young at heart and love each other following 55 years of marriage

— An awesome family who love each other (most days)

— In-laws who still love me even though I moved their ‘Buddy’

— My dogs who love me and the way they know I am injured and want to fix me

— Living near the water and the feeling of peace it gives

— Owning a home in the area where I grew up (and simply owning a home)

— A very, very large extended family, both sides

— Love in my heart

— Music since it helps clear out the cob webs

— Living near family

— Having use of my legs despite enduring a spinal cord injury

— The ability to appreciate and to take the time to notice the beauty around me

— Having a college degree and no student loans — thanks to my Mom and Dad

— Friends who I adore

— My ability to help others and to show compassion

— Financial security and the jobs I had along the way

Kind people (those you know and the ones you don’t) 

— Pedicures, massages; or any pampering since it teaches you to fully relax

— Writing since it helps me cope

— Botox, for pain relief

— Doctors who care even though they are difficult to find

— Country living and being able to see the stars at night

— Being raised Christian, going to church on Sunday’s, Wednesday’s and other days when Mom told us

— Knowing so many of my relatives, including my grandparents

— Scientists who are researching spinal cord injury cure and many other medical conditions

— Technology since it makes it easier for the disabled

— Laughter and the way it can brighten up a day

— Sense of smell, hearing, taste, touch, sight

— Our Tempur-pedic mattress

—  Mother Nature

Traveling and being exposed to many interesting places throughout the world

— Watching my daughter grow and mature

— Being so approachable 

— To live in America 

All animals 

— My heart

Those who read what I write ~ I am truly humbled

While I could continue this list for days, months, years, I hope it will inspire you to begin your own list. Blessings to you ~ always!

©My Unplanned Life and, 2012.


About mswd

I am an individual living with a spinal cord injury. How the injury occurred, how I found out how severe my injury was and how my planned life suddenly became 'unplanned' is included in this blog. Also included is how the injury has tested my family and me. I believe you will discover it has been both a mentally and physically challenging ordeal and I learned a few lessons along the way. While I am still defining my life’s purpose since the injury, I have uncovered those who are injured, live with pain or have other obstacles to navigate are never able to escape. However, come with me as I explore ways to improve my life, learn to live with multiple neurological conditions, educate others and look for the silver lining. I believe with a little willpower, my caring family and God's guidance I will learn to forgive, hopefully forget how I was treated and dismissed by a doctor and uncover life's new purpose. I pray for painfree days and answers to questions that keep swirling through my mind. I also pray for a cure for neurological conditions and for the doctors to treat their patients with respect. Welcome to my journey. I would love to hear about yours!
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7 Responses to Not an Average Birthday…!

  1. neurovantage says:

    A great write. Happy April Fools day! Have a fabulous weekend, my friend.

  2. Chatter Master says:

    Happy Birthday to you and your dad! Thank you for sharing your wish with all of us! I hope it was as wonderful a day as the wish was for the rest of us. 🙂

    • mswd says:

      Thank you so much! I couldn’t have asked for a more perfect day. Spent time with my wonderful family and Dad and I once again blew out candles together without setting off the smoke detectors! 🙂 I truly am blessed in so many ways, including my new blog friends! Wishing you a wonderful week! Hugs!

  3. Beverly says:

    Happy Birthday. Wishing you a great year ahead.

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